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Equipment:

Fan: Used by the Mak Andam (bridal makeup artist) to cover the bride's face during the "tol buka kipas" (fan toll) phase.

Bridal Dais Chair: Seats for the bride and groom after the toll payment process is complete.

Money Tray: A small tray or container for collecting the toll money from the groom.

Table for Offerings: A table for placing additional symbolic items or gifts during negotiations.

Materials:

Toll Money: Small denominations of cash, typically RM0.50 to RM1.00 per toll, though higher amounts may be used for added humour or respect.

Bridal Dais Decorations: Flowers, fabric, and other embellishments that enhance the aesthetic of the dais.

Poetry or Banter Scripts: While not physical items, pantuns (traditional Malay poetry) or witty exchanges are a key part of the toll negotiation process.

The Adat Tebus Pelamin ritual unfolds in three main stages:

1. Toll to Enter the Courtyard (Tol Tebus Laman):

The first "toll" is collected at the entrance to the bride's home, often guarded by children, youths, or elders from the community.

The groom must pay the toll before being allowed into the bride's house compound.

2. Toll to Ascend the Pelamin (Tol Tebus Pintu/Naik Pelamin):

The second toll is paid at the doorway or before the groom approaches the bridal dais.

This phase is often supervised by the bride's friends, relatives, or bridesmaids, who engage the groom in playful negotiations.

3. Toll for the Fan (Tol Mak Andam/Buka Kipas):

The final toll involves the Mak Andam covering the bride's face with a fan.

The groom must pay to have the fan removed and sit beside his bride.

Role of the Best Man (Pengapit):

The groom's best man plays a crucial role in this tradition, acting as the negotiator and mediator. His tasks include responding with pantuns, managing interactions, and ensuring the groom remains cheerful and composed.

There are no specific individuals associated with the origin of Adat Tebus Pelamin. However, the Johor Malay community has preserved and adapted this tradition into modern wedding ceremonies.

Adat Tebus Pelamin is frequently featured in media and academic cultural studies, highlighting the community's dedication to preserving this distinctive aspect of Johor's wedding customs.