PERKAHWINAN: HANTAR TANDA DAN MEMINANG THE CULTURE AND CUSTOM OF THE MAH MERI COMMUNITY MARRIAGE: PRESENTING THE SIGNATURE RING AND ASKING FOR THE HAND IN MARRIAGE
Most of the Mah Meri people marry at a young age. The age presumed suitable for men is 18 while 16 for women and must not exceed that of the men. The marriage partner is decided by parents, as well as the marriage itself is handled by the parents beginning with the enquiring ceremony until both the man and woman is legally married. Some are already engaged while still small. Usually the couple is related like first or second cousin or within the same tribe. But, it is not wrong if the man marries a woman from a different tribe. However, the wife must follow the husband, or in other words the wife enters the husbands tribe.
Both the families of the man side and the woman side meet before hand to obtain the agreement regarding the presentation of the signature ring. This presentation ceremony is carried by the parents and the elderly family members, and lead by a representative of the village head. In this function too the asking for the hand in marriage day is decided upon.
This ceremony is handled by both sides represented by the tribal leaders known as Tok Batin or Jenang or Penghulu or Jungkerah and the village head known as Penggawa if from different tribes. They hold the discussion in a big house, now known as community hall. After the ceremony ends then the marriage date is decided upon which is about seven, or eight months or a year after the asking for the hand in marriage ceremony.